I’ve heard this said a lot of different ways, but this seems to fit me best. I’m trying to be okay with things being good, okay even, and not trying to make them perfect all the time. Like, the time I freaked out on the day after Thanksgiving because we weren’t all going to be able to go together to get a Christmas tree, so I tainted a GOOD experience because it wasn’t going to be perfect.
I don’t want to do that anymore.
Additionally, I have a million and a half projects pinned that go uncompleted because they can’t be … perfect. So, I’m trying to make a couple good ones. Even if they’re just kind of good, that’s really better than just being a passing thought I never acted on.
And then there’s writing. I can find 8 1/2 million reasons not to write or if I do write, I have 927 million reasons not to share it. Most of those reasons are…….”it sucks,” “no one will relate,” “this is self-indulgent.” It’s a lot of defeatist drivel.
I listened to a TedTalk (linked if you wanna listen; it’s fabulous) about how hesitant women are to try if we aren’t certain that we’re going to succeed. The speaker said that we should stop teaching our daughters to be perfect and start teaching them to be brave.
So, I’m going to be really brave and move forward with this project that’s been on my heart for awhile. And do you know what I’m most afraid of? Failing. Embarrassing myself. People talking bad about me. I hear my group therapy facilitator saying, “So what would happen if they did?” And do you know what would happen? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I know who I am.
And all of you who read this? You know who I am too. I am flawed, imperfect and a hot mess lots of days. I’m a work in progress. However, I am also kind, compassionate, loving and empathetic–I really want to write empathic, but it provokes the red squiggly line which makes my skin prickle because I’m such a rule follower.
Whether I succeed, fail or face criticism, I’ll at least be able to say I used my unique gifts to contribute positively to humanity one kind word at a time. Do you want to do something, but fear is holding you back? Please share. We can be brave together!